It’s Never too Late to Undo Injustice

Especially when it could easily have been avoided in the first place.

The US Senate panel vote to strike down the Defence of Marriage Act (“DOMA”) that defined marriage as one man and one woman.

The vote was 10-8, with all committee Democrats favoring appeal and all Republicans opposed. The repeal bill would need 60 votes in the 100-member Senate, and sponsors acknowledged the votes aren’t there. The measure would have no chance in the House, controlled by conservative Republicans.

Gays and lesbians are only equal citizens in America in the District of Columbia, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, New York and New Hampshire.

In a time when governments are apologizing and making reparations to minority groups that have been historically abused by earlier incarnations; isn’t it time to say enough with creating future compensation claims?

Only equal is equal – legalize gay marriage now and avoid paying for not doing it later.

Christmas Crackers

better than tteeVy productions proudly presents the World Premiere of
Christmas Crackers

by Yvette Dudley-Neuman

Directed By Mauri Bernstein

December 7 to December 23, 2011

Tuesday to Saturday Evenings at 8 pm
Matinees Saturday and Sunday at 3 pm

Tickets $15 to $20
visit to reserve your tickets

Synopsis: When Jane Humphries commits the ultimate Christmas crime by tossing out her secret Santa gifts and declaring Christmas, “Holiday Hoo-Ha”, she is trapped in her office cubicle by the Magnus 4100 Operating System. Frustrated and famished, Jane is forced to recover her secret Santa gift, a box of Christmas crackers. Each time Jane eats a candy surprise from a Christmas cracker, she is whisked away on a journey of Christmas discovery!

Zany, Irreverent and Funny!

This Christmas Something’s Going to Snap!


Mark Embacher
Jason Harder
Chanel Klein
Morgan S. Slade
& Yvette Dudley-Neuman

Rick Perry forgets which departments to cut

US Republican hopeful Rick Perry bungled the latest round of debates when he forgot which three departments that he would eliminate and had to be reminded of his own speaking points by rival Ron Paul.

On the chopping block would be the departments of Education, Commerce and Energy.

Because apparently, Sunday school can replace all other school days and the economic recovery is just a prayer day away so no further need for commerce and the apocalypse will restore the earth to the original Eden factory settings including all the oil deposits so no need to be environmental for anyone left behind.

Moral Morality

It is not the job of any democratic government to regulate morality and especially to not make laws based on any particular idea of what morality is. Dictatorships and Theocracies legislate the morality of the land, democracies recognize the individual as the social unit of consequence and part of freedom and liberty is managing your own morality; leaving government to legislate our interactions with each other, such as in contract law and the criminal code.

The anti-abortion lobby is a moralist lobby – they are seeking to enshrine their morality into secular law in a democratic nation under the false belief that America was founded as a Christian nation. And their reasoning is that they beleive that morals are external to humans and handed down in absolute form by a deity.

In the Jesusverse, original sin is the knowledge of good and evil – in other words, being able to make moral distinctions is original sin and treading on an area reserved for god.

So in claiming that there’s a god and thus absolute morals because while god knows better than us, yet is incapable of providing credentials, we are all supposed to put aside what our experience and reason tells us about moral distinctions on the say so of people who are more concerned about their absolutist morals being imposed on the population rather than how that would restrict the freedom and liberty guaranteed by the foundational documents of the land – the constitution and bill of rights.

That morals vary widely demonstrates that there are no absolute morals – only degrees of worse or better, relatively speaking. There are many different systems through which people understand morals and morality; although most systems of morals do not consider a person’s underlying motivation, which to my mind, makes them lacking in force or meaning

The idea that morals should trump actual living people is appalling; yet, this is what religious people regularly do – hold their claimed morals above people. This is why they are consumed with the unborn and comatose rather than a living person who needs social assistance for a hand up in the world. The unborn and comatose aren’t demanding and can’t participate in decisions – and it’s the being in charge of decisions that the religious want to take away from people.

Imagine that your spouse, parent or child was in hospital and you weren’t able to make decisions for their care and treatment, especially end of life treatment, because this ability was legislated away regardless of the doctor’s assessment and medical reality.

Living in a democratic country means you get to decide for yourself what happens to you in your life. Whether you marry, whether you have children – these are important decisions that we all have to determine for ourselves.

Yet, anti-abortionists would tell you that they know better than you do about what you should allow to happen within your body.

Part of the anti-abortion sentiment arises from anti-sex attitudes, that if you don’t want to risk pregnancy that you should keep your legs shut – an outdated,  controlling and unrealistic desire to maintain the illusion that there’s girls you marry and girls you have fun with – something that benefits only the girls who say no and no one else.

Really, if we want to reduce the divorce rate, we should be encouraging people to be in touch with their sexuality and to marry someone they are compatible with. Sexual incompatibility leads to marriage problems and often to divorce.

We learn morals from our parents, our experiences and what the society we live in tells us is moral within the context of the society. Being educated and learning about more cultures, it’s not hard to see that morals are context sensitive and relative to circumstances – and you can determine what’s moral or not with a broader perspective – what’s common morals to cultures through the ages and what’s clearly okay or not based on a macro view.

Morally capable adults do not depend on fairy stories to know how to behave, they can and do distinguish between unacceptable and acceptable under certain conditions. There is no list of absolute morals that can be memorized and attempted to be applied in life – moral lists generally fall apart over rule conflicts – can you lie to spare someone’s feelings or to save a life?

When it comes to morals, you have to do the work yourself – and when you can do that, you don’t need any gods and certainly, you don’t need your morality legislated by people who have no consideration of your life. So why should their morals be respected or enshrined, when they are absolutely heartless and ignore the circumstances of making a life changing decision.

Because collective and individual survival and thriving is best ensured by cooperative behaviours – which is balancing both people’s needs, interests and morals – applying an absolute rule would make genuine cooperation difficult.


a person who is moral, is moral with or without an audience

if you can’t determine morals on your own, then no amount of obeying social rules or laws are going to make you moral

The Shut-In Stand Up Blog

I’ve started a new blog as a tangent to this blog. Yes, another one.

Wait, you didn’t know I did other blogs too? In addition to Random Ntrygg (random intrigue), I have:

It’s A Good Enough Thing – a blog by “Nancy Stewart” with the best Peg Bracken sensibility.

Lez Flirt – Flirting tips & advice for lesbians that anyone can use

The Shut-In Stand Up – a comedic look at modern life thru the eye of a virtual shut in

While I will post blogs every weekday on Random Ntrygg, the other blogs will be updated at irregular intervals.