New to the Blogroll: Sharon Love

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My name is Sharon Love. For many years, I had a dream to save lives of bullied gay & LGBT youth by uniting over a million gay-friendly people on facebook. My first group got five people. My friends called me crazy. But I was on fire! I created seventeen more groups, and in the process, I discovered Twelve Secrets of Social Media Success. In 2010, I created a facebook group called I bet we can find 1,000,000 People Who Support Same-Sex  Marriage. With you, we reached over TWO million people in just over two weeks! It was a purely grassroots movement. I didn’t spend a cent in  advertising. Thank you so much if you joined! We reached over 60,000 petition signatures for gay marriage, we saved lives of bullied gay youth, and we united gay-friendly leaders from around the world. Visitors still flock to my web site.

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Being Fat

Being overweight is something that I actually don’t mind being

It has served several purposes for me, one of which is to filtre out shallow people. To anyone who counts, what matters is the quality of you as a person, not the quantity of you

I used to be active in organized SF fandom and a friend of mine lost 100 pounds and she was very distressed that the guys who had been friendly and behaved like older brothers to her suddenly began to indicate sexual interest in her. It distressed her because she was still the same person, just in a smaller package and her distress at the change in other people’s behavior resulted in her gaining back the weight, plus more.

I became overweight as a teenager, depression driven – we had moved from the city to a rural area and the culture shock, having to start over making friends and resetting the family dynamic was major factors

My mom, well meaning to encourage me – to identify a goal to connect to losing weight, would say things like you won’t get a boyfriend if you’re fat

I expect that even though I wasn’t yet out to myself that I was a lesbian, on some level, I became fat to make sure I didn’t get what I didn’t want, but at the time, I think I might have thought that it would make sure if I got one, it was a good keeper one.

Genetic play a role and really, I think it’s more the stress of being fat than being fat that is the cause of health problems; when you consider that less fatphobic countries do not have the same health problems as in US/Canada.

It’s a difficult message and why eating is such a messed up thing, both over and under eating.

We eat to self-comfort, to rebel against the social norms and rules, to self-punish – often rarely enjoying what we eat, even as we keep one eye on the food and another out to see what can be next.

There not a lot of messages and self-talk that we get about ourselves that is positive – we are surrounded by advertising and the basis of advertising is no longer to explain the advantages and benefits of a product, but to create a need, a desire where none existed before – to say that we are not enough unless we have the product. We aren’t nice or sexy enough or deserving of sex unless we use the product – which is a lot of pressure given that most products have no utility during sex or in directly obtaining sex.

So, given that the scripts and self-talk and messages we give ourselves are untrue – why not make them positive instead of the usual negative – that we are good enough, that we are deserving and worthwhile – because when you hear and accept a message, it will be true over time – and a positive message will at least serve us and our needs in the long run in a way that negative self-talk never will.

Idle Idols

It’s funny how some religions that insist that you can’t worship idols use so many of them for props, rituals and as a way of branding members.

Really, is wearing a religious symbol really any different than a T-shirt with a company logo emblazoned on it?

Leaving aside that the religions are hypocritical between word and deed, the main focus of religion seems to be to attack people for their innate natures.

We are symbol makers, pattern seekers, and sexual beings. No religion is going to change that, just make us feel guilty and like failures – so we’re easier to manipulate.

It’s not any different than advertising for any product. The basis of advertising is that you’re not good enough on your own unless you use our products.

Not being good enough means your house is dirty, you’re dirty and stinky, failed as a parent and person,  and are sexually unappealing on top of it. Changing all that is a tall order for gum, deodorant, laundry or dish soap, clothes and cars. It’s no wonder they’ve banned alcohol advertising – because that at least does makes us feel like we are funnier, smarter and more attractive.

Advertising has learned a lot from following religion’s lead. Distracting and disenfranchising people makes hem easier to control – they’ll do anything to be in the Members club and not be an outsider.

Religions condemn people for our natural inclinations nd then offer a salvation from that. Cults do it clumsily to the outsider, but older and more established religions are more subtle and skilled – to the point that their hypocritical mumbo jumbo is accepted dogma that the practitioners cherry pick from.

Remember: a religion is a cult that’s lost it’s amateur status and gone pro.

It’s not just Christians with the priest and nun costumes, the crosses, crucifixes,  rosaries, the televangelist hair and all the rest – okay, stained glass windows are pretty, but still….

Muslims originally forbade the image of Mohammad because they didn’t want the kind of idolatry that there is with Christ. Because, all the paraphernalia ends up becoming the focus, rather than the central figure – and we’ve seen this concern play out in modern times with Elvis. Most people forget what a musical innovator he was and instead, they recall the jumpsuits, Vegas, shooting tvs and a life of excess.

Further idolization of Mohammad occurs when the rabid response against images of Mohammad itself becomes the idealized response. They’ve gone from “don’t disrespect him by making images” to “kill the desecrator!”

Thinking about using  idolatry has finally made the Christian Trinity make sense.

The shift from there being just god at first and then god and Jesus created a problem of people having two things to worship.

Which is where the holy ghost comes into play, making them separate entities but also one. So it becomes okay to worship god and his earthly stand in (or idol) when they are made even more magik – and three is a long time magik number – by being one and the same.

The ghost aspect adds an extra supernatural dimension, which is really confusing, so you are distracted by the incestuous idea of being your own parent.

No wonder the religious right pushes for missionary only, they need a break from the rest of their kinkiness.