Three Types of Support – Industry Networking

01 resources and support

02 support and health

Naturalism is natural

Fear arises from what is strange or unfamiliar to us

but there is no reason to fear differences and expecting differences, learning about them.

that’s the best way to deconstruct and dismantle the fear


no one group has all the answers nor does any one group represent the only path to find answers.

we are all on our own journey and path, and there 7 billion plus of us.


no one of us knows what’s best for all other other people.

Does the West Envy the East?

When I consider the problems in the relationship between management and employees , I have to wonder, with all the books, seminars, workshops, studies and best management practices – there is nothing in the west that compares to the east in getting employees to work against their own interests and for management’s interests.

Yes, I am comparing suicide bombers to workers. Temporary workers, anyway.

How it is that people can be convinced to strap on an explosive device to advance the goals of management, when management is placing itself far out of harm’s way and not undertaking any of the risks?

Managers in the west are told to “model the behavior” that they want to see in the workplace – but you don’t see the leadership of organizations that utilize suicide bombers strapping anything to themselves – no, they hide out in caves or compounds, in the middle of civilians who are apparently willing to be missile shields or acceptable losses to shame the west when they are inevitably bombed to get at the management of the organization.

If nothing else, you have to admire the ability to so motivate an employee that they literally give their life to complete the project. Not to mention avoiding the matters of pension, severance, training allowances although, you don’t get to retain good employees and there’s no corporate memory to come back and haunt you if there’s ever a trial. If you put aside the nature of the work, there’s barely a downside from a management perspective.

But perhaps one shouldn’t underestimate a strong work ethic and employee engagement when combined with an appropriate management style – which is truly a productive force to be reckoned with.

Despite the high turnover and constant headcount reduction,  there seems to be no end of people willing to take over the job, despite the lack of comprehensive benefits, work life balance, flex time or education opportunities.

In addition to western managers having reasons to envy eastern motivational management, so too do western religious believers envy the east.

After all, when certain eastern religious practitioners express their displeasure with freedom of expression, artistic expression and well, facts and reality – the reaction of the western Christians tends to be the “we’d never get away with behaving like that!” Following by a general hand wringing and acting like Christians are still being fed to lions, instead of being the lion’s keepers as they have been for centuries.

But it would seem that the jealousy goes both ways, although I don’t entirely understand the east’s feelings towards the west, after all, they won the last of the crusades 1.0  – but instead of building on that momentum, they culturally and scientifically flatlined when Islam beat back the Christian soldiers – like Europe did when the Catholic Church dominated what is referred to as the Dark Ages.

So perhaps Arab Spring will usher in an age of enlightenment and cultural changes – workers will want more permanent and long term employment and participation – pension plans even – and a balance can be struck wherein the relationship between those with power and those carrying out the work that powers the power isn’t entirely one sided.

Where people’s dedication is focused on life affirming goals and peace mongering, diplomacy rather than militancy, reason and rationality over emotionalism and fear.

Because, as managers in the west have found, you can gain a kind of respect by managing through fear, but that will only demand respect and never command it.

Workers rights are supposed to have removed fear from the workplace, and vigilance is the cost of having rights. Lest we forget.

Why are some straights paranoid about gay sex?

It’s interesting to me how alarmed, concerned, freaked out that some straight people are over gay sex – with never a whisper about lesbian sex

Just as an aside, these usually religious righteous straight types actually are more obsessed with gay sex than any gay person is.

Do you think it’s a Queen Victoria thing – women don’t do that?

Or that women on women is somehow less threatening?

Or that women are second class so it doesn’t matter?

It might be because many men are convinced that lesbian sex isn’t real or it’s just what gals do in between men for for a male audience.

Or that we’re convertible……


Is that why these offended and frightened straights  fear gay sex so much? They worry that it’s them who are convertible?

If that is the case, then fearing makes no sense, since if they were convertible, they’d like it.


I posted this on another blog, and wanted to add it here, because I didn’t want to lose the thought and they probably won’t approve it.


Sex is risky and life threatening, regardless of gender and orientation. The more partners a person has, the higher the chances they will have sex with a risky person.

There’s all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases – AIDs is hardly the only one.

But it’s risky sex that’s the risk, not sex per se.

If you really want to reduce AIDS in gay men – and I notice you ignore that lesbians have the lowest AIDs rate of all the groups – then the best response is a combination of education, circumcision, and encouraging stable and monogamous relationships.

Let’s just say it: Gay Marriage.

Cold hard truth is that marriage settles people down to monogamous relationships – sure some will stray, just like some straights stray now.

And, let’s say this cold hard truth: AIDS is not a gay disease. Globally, it’s Heterosexual. It only has the gay stigma in the US/Canada because gay men were the first to be diagnosed with it.

And everyone should be glad that they did, because AIDS is an equal opportunity killer and there are no innocent or deserving victims – there are just people who got it through bodily fluid contact – sex, needles or blood.

Gay Marriage is not going to change marriage – straight people will still marry – what gay marriage will change is the gay community.

Gay isn’t going away, the bill of rights does not contain a footnote that reads “this offer is not valid for gay people”, so, if the real concern is the spread of disease, then encourage a behavior change – reduce the risk, make gay marriage legal.