Scalablity is the hallmark of the big picture thinkers

Gun control prevents people from becoming criminals

when the American bill of rights was orginally created, the framers did not imagine a future where citizens felt an entitlement to be judge, jury and executioner of their fellow citizens.

the America of the time was a less settled state with threats of foriegn government, but the founding fathers also had the idea that the form of government that they created might someday fail and need to be replaced.

sadly, this has actually come to pass and for the very reason they feared – Christianity – has invaded the halls of government and perverted the secular Federal republic that they envisioned.

The idea that you must be armed against your government is a truism in many places in the world that are theocracies or dictatorships, where the government feels entitled to execute citizens in addition to legislation

and this then permeates all levels of society where people now accept that murder, blackmail and other activities is the means to get ahead or resolve differences or solve problems or worse, just to get your 15 minutes of fame or got out of this world in a big splashy way that you think will get you remembered.

which is one of the biggest dangers of the media coverage of mass shooting events, is that others who are contemplating or heading down that path are then encouraged to have a bar to exceed, as if that’s a good thing to be remembered for.

the reality is that no one just snaps.

not for mass shootings and not for suicide either

there are always signs and a pattern to the behaviour and people need to learn them and pay attention.

more imporantaly, when someone does report the authorities, be that police, workplace management or school administration – needs to take the reports seriously and investigate.

families need to pay attention to behavioural changes and especially if a person who was depressed or angry suddenly gets happy – because that is the true danger period – because more likely than not, it’s because the decision has been made.

not to do it – because that is practically a forgone conclusion, so it’s not a decision of if, but a question of when – and deciding “today is the day” – is what is making them happy, not that they resolved their issues….but that they are going to payback everyone who they perceive hurt or slighted them.

even when and sometimes especially total strangers or other scapegoats….

workplace guide to violence prevention

and a last thought on this subject:

There’s prevention of future crime – which gun control supports

Then there’s dealing with current crime, which gun legislation can assist with by the increase in charges and penalties for involving weapons in crime and not as negotiation tools for plea bargins.

But the reality is that as horrible as gun crime and violence is, the white collar corporate money crimes do more harm to society than violence – even though in the US alone, murders have an economic cost of losing 1 million hours of productivity a year, adding the decades of work that the murdered people could have contributed to society, never mind the cost to their families and friends for the loss of their person and the qualities of joy and happiness they potentially brought and maintained in the world

Perhaps it’s time that we looked at violence as being against the victims and their family/friends instead of being against society and balance the interests of victims of violence crime vs the criminals and consider the mass economic crimes of corporations as being against society.

Grief varies according to community norms and standards

Nina’s review: this book can save your life and the lives of others. guaranteed

The Gift of Fear
by Gavin de Becker


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An instant #1 National Bestseller, The Gift of Fear reveals practical lessons from Gavin de Becker’s decades of studying violence. The book appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for seventeen weeks and has been published in 13 languages.  In 2008, Oprah Winfrey did a special show commemorating the 10th Anniversary of its publication, and the book was featured several other times on her show, as well as two full hours on Larry King Live, three weeks in a row on Prime Time Live, two center pages in Time Magazine, among many others.

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In The Gift of Fear, de Becker draws on his extensive expertise to explode the myth that most violent acts are random and unpredictable and shows that they usually have discernible motives and are preceded by clear warning signs. Through dozens of compelling stories from his own career and life, he unravels the complexities of violent behavior and details the pre-incident indicators (PINs) that can determine if someone poses a danger to us. Readers learn how to:

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Casey Gwinn
City Attorney, San Diego
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Linda A. Fairstein
Sex Crimes Prosecutor and Author
“An important and provocative book which offers real solutions to problems of fear and personal violence – from an expert who knows the territory and explodes the myths. I know The Gift of Fear will be a terrific resource for me – and, I hope, for millions of readers.”
Marcia Clark:
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Robert Ressler
FBI Behavioral Scientist
Author of “Whoever Fights Monsters”
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Meryl Streep
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Scott Gordon
Chairman, Domestic Violence Council
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Daniel Petrocelli
Lead Plaintiff counsel
Goldman v. Simpson
“Gavin de Becker’s book is the first to explain that our powers of intutition are the best protection we have against violence.”
Erika Holzer
Lawyer and author of “Eye For An Eye”
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SELF Magazine
The Gift of Fear is an important story with a powerful message, a story every woman must read.”