Recognizing Realities


Writer Chat 68 – Raping Republicans

and then…

It is curious to me that I make comments about a group of people

someone finds that offensive and personalizes it then takes me to task for having said it


because when I post a general observation about a group, it’s about a group that is not going to see the comment or even care or be bothered by it.

so how is that bullying?   – especially since the comments are from a position of lower power, influence and authority – so there’s literally no impact


but telling a person they may not expresses their views because of perceived offense or rudeness?

FUCK THAT – fuck that fuck whoever thinks that and fuck anyone who agrees with that


If you disagree with what I said – then disagree with what I said.

not me. not my right to express or hold said opinion.

that is not a counter to what was said, that is a personal attack – and that is bullying behavior.



and merely disagreeing or labelling it thus and so – IS NOT A COUNTER ARGUMENT


I do not post from emotion – and most people do. This is why communication on line is fraught with so much more conflict than in person interactions.

People act like there’s not a thinking feeling person on the other side, because most people are too silenced over their lives that their sole concern is to get their points out there

without ever considering how best to get their points across.


So shouting into the void and hearing only echos is not surprising


when people do not bother to take the time or put in the effort to actually connect to the conversation if not the person…


The Average Woman’s Experience?


Rape is an Epic Fail and never legit

Mostly, this is because of religions that say sex is bad.

people deny themselves, get all messed up over sex and develop pyschotic control freak attitudes about it.

sex is both physically and mentally healthy for you. masturbation is the ultimate safe sex.
but the energy and intimacy between two or more people, as per your preferences and legitmate access to. Including whether you’re really in an open relationship or not…

well, that’s really only the business of the people invited and no one else is entitled to force their values or opnions into laws that other people have to abide by.

the ability to chose what do do with and to and in our bodies is to each of us individually.

personal sovereignty. it’s what secular democracy is all about.

any one who seeks to control the personal behaviours of others, is substantially, but not technically breaking the law. although, it is a fun legal what if scenario to play with.

something to blog about later, dear readers.



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Why No has to mean No as a public and legal policy

Even though, we all know that between consenting adults, that sometimes NO does mean try harder or try me later.
But rape is not about consenting adults, it is in fact specifically not consent.

not all rape is strangers grabbing someone. Most rape is by someone actually known to the victim and usually a person in a position of some form of authority over them.
On average, within the birth family a parent or older sibling. Often a family friend, neighbour or person dating into a family. Frequently, someone in a position of community trust – in school or within a religion’s hierarchy.