Queen Takes King or King Takes Queen – love is a many gendered thing


Harvey Milk wore a hoodie

Are you white enough to be white?

Being Queer is different not something you happen to be

I am a person. Equal under the law to any other because I live in Canada.

But I am not treated the same in society or by individuals because of my sexuality.

Something that should have no bearing on anyone who I do not invite to participate in sexual activity.

Nor should anyone feel entitled to push their religion or beliefs or opinions on me or expect that I will live my life according to other people’s ideas that I do not share.

That one person may not approve of marriage between same gender people doesn’t mean that I or other people like me should not be able to be married. Or have and raise children.

The social stigma against minorities, whether they are a sexual, ethnic or physical/mental abilities or anything else that sets any group of people as different from the norm or average mainstream of people.

Individuals are not groups – we are all just people. No better or worse than anyone else because of the group characteristics that identify us to the larger community or which inform our self-identity as people.

Understanding group dynamics should lead one towards a state of curious compassion. Not intolerance or fear or mistrust or hatred.

It is difficult enough for any person to manage in the world, given the state of persona; finances, economic participation, family status and inter-personal relationships.

No one needs to have their lives made harder because of other people’s small and selfish mindedness.

At the end of the day, it’s you that you have to face in the mirror.

Make sure you like and respect who you see – so govern yourself accordingly.

Dignity of Humanity – Individual Quality Not Assured


Does the West Envy the East?

When I consider the problems in the relationship between management and employees , I have to wonder, with all the books, seminars, workshops, studies and best management practices – there is nothing in the west that compares to the east in getting employees to work against their own interests and for management’s interests.

Yes, I am comparing suicide bombers to workers. Temporary workers, anyway.

How it is that people can be convinced to strap on an explosive device to advance the goals of management, when management is placing itself far out of harm’s way and not undertaking any of the risks?

Managers in the west are told to “model the behavior” that they want to see in the workplace – but you don’t see the leadership of organizations that utilize suicide bombers strapping anything to themselves – no, they hide out in caves or compounds, in the middle of civilians who are apparently willing to be missile shields or acceptable losses to shame the west when they are inevitably bombed to get at the management of the organization.

If nothing else, you have to admire the ability to so motivate an employee that they literally give their life to complete the project. Not to mention avoiding the matters of pension, severance, training allowances although, you don’t get to retain good employees and there’s no corporate memory to come back and haunt you if there’s ever a trial. If you put aside the nature of the work, there’s barely a downside from a management perspective.

But perhaps one shouldn’t underestimate a strong work ethic and employee engagement when combined with an appropriate management style – which is truly a productive force to be reckoned with.

Despite the high turnover and constant headcount reduction,  there seems to be no end of people willing to take over the job, despite the lack of comprehensive benefits, work life balance, flex time or education opportunities.

In addition to western managers having reasons to envy eastern motivational management, so too do western religious believers envy the east.

After all, when certain eastern religious practitioners express their displeasure with freedom of expression, artistic expression and well, facts and reality – the reaction of the western Christians tends to be the “we’d never get away with behaving like that!” Following by a general hand wringing and acting like Christians are still being fed to lions, instead of being the lion’s keepers as they have been for centuries.

But it would seem that the jealousy goes both ways, although I don’t entirely understand the east’s feelings towards the west, after all, they won the last of the crusades 1.0  – but instead of building on that momentum, they culturally and scientifically flatlined when Islam beat back the Christian soldiers – like Europe did when the Catholic Church dominated what is referred to as the Dark Ages.

So perhaps Arab Spring will usher in an age of enlightenment and cultural changes – workers will want more permanent and long term employment and participation – pension plans even – and a balance can be struck wherein the relationship between those with power and those carrying out the work that powers the power isn’t entirely one sided.

Where people’s dedication is focused on life affirming goals and peace mongering, diplomacy rather than militancy, reason and rationality over emotionalism and fear.

Because, as managers in the west have found, you can gain a kind of respect by managing through fear, but that will only demand respect and never command it.

Workers rights are supposed to have removed fear from the workplace, and vigilance is the cost of having rights. Lest we forget.