Even though, we all know that between consenting adults, that sometimes NO does mean try harder or try me later.
But rape is not about consenting adults, it is in fact specifically not consent.
not all rape is strangers grabbing someone. Most rape is by someone actually known to the victim and usually a person in a position of some form of authority over them.
On average, within the birth family a parent or older sibling. Often a family friend, neighbour or person dating into a family. Frequently, someone in a position of community trust – in school or within a religion’s hierarchy.
when the American bill of rights was orginally created, the framers did not imagine a future where citizens felt an entitlement to be judge, jury and executioner of their fellow citizens.
the America of the time was a less settled state with threats of foriegn government, but the founding fathers also had the idea that the form of government that they created might someday fail and need to be replaced.
sadly, this has actually come to pass and for the very reason they feared – Christianity – has invaded the halls of government and perverted the secular Federal republic that they envisioned.
The idea that you must be armed against your government is a truism in many places in the world that are theocracies or dictatorships, where the government feels entitled to execute citizens in addition to legislation
and this then permeates all levels of society where people now accept that murder, blackmail and other activities is the means to get ahead or resolve differences or solve problems or worse, just to get your 15 minutes of fame or got out of this world in a big splashy way that you think will get you remembered.
which is one of the biggest dangers of the media coverage of mass shooting events, is that others who are contemplating or heading down that path are then encouraged to have a bar to exceed, as if that’s a good thing to be remembered for.
the reality is that no one just snaps.
not for mass shootings and not for suicide either
there are always signs and a pattern to the behaviour and people need to learn them and pay attention.
more imporantaly, when someone does report the authorities, be that police, workplace management or school administration – needs to take the reports seriously and investigate.
families need to pay attention to behavioural changes and especially if a person who was depressed or angry suddenly gets happy – because that is the true danger period – because more likely than not, it’s because the decision has been made.
not to do it – because that is practically a forgone conclusion, so it’s not a decision of if, but a question of when – and deciding “today is the day” – is what is making them happy, not that they resolved their issues….but that they are going to payback everyone who they perceive hurt or slighted them.
even when and sometimes especially total strangers or other scapegoats….
and a last thought on this subject:
There’s prevention of future crime – which gun control supports
Then there’s dealing with current crime, which gun legislation can assist with by the increase in charges and penalties for involving weapons in crime and not as negotiation tools for plea bargins.
But the reality is that as horrible as gun crime and violence is, the white collar corporate money crimes do more harm to society than violence – even though in the US alone, murders have an economic cost of losing 1 million hours of productivity a year, adding the decades of work that the murdered people could have contributed to society, never mind the cost to their families and friends for the loss of their person and the qualities of joy and happiness they potentially brought and maintained in the world
Perhaps it’s time that we looked at violence as being against the victims and their family/friends instead of being against society and balance the interests of victims of violence crime vs the criminals and consider the mass economic crimes of corporations as being against society.