People are one thing, military use of them another

to really support the troops, bring them home and restore them to their family, friends, loved ones and pets.

that’s the support they need the most and respect when they get home

not turned into homeless street involved people who have fallen through the cracks, their lives disrupted forever by not being able to unsee or unhear or unfeel what they experienced

and end up isolated, disaffected and disenfranchised

supporting the troops with military support is not the support they most need

rehumanization, self preservation mechanisms intact and mental health recovery support

that’s what I want for the troops

ask what your country is going to do for you -or for yours in the event that you do give your life – because when people are asked to do that….

well, even the families of suicide bombers get compensation from the organization they exploded in support of.

how telling is that?

don’t trade freedom for the appearance of security

freedom is measured by how much you can dissent, not by how many conform

Grief varies according to community norms and standards

Nina’s review: this book can save your life and the lives of others. guaranteed

The Gift of Fear
by Gavin de Becker


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An instant #1 National Bestseller, The Gift of Fear reveals practical lessons from Gavin de Becker’s decades of studying violence. The book appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for seventeen weeks and has been published in 13 languages.  In 2008, Oprah Winfrey did a special show commemorating the 10th Anniversary of its publication, and the book was featured several other times on her show, as well as two full hours on Larry King Live, three weeks in a row on Prime Time Live, two center pages in Time Magazine, among many others.

Today, a decade after its first publication, AMAZON’s list of the 25 Bestselling Self-defense books shows The Gift of Fear at #1 in the world, with editions of the book also appearing on the list as #4, #7, and #22.

In The Gift of Fear, de Becker draws on his extensive expertise to explode the myth that most violent acts are random and unpredictable and shows that they usually have discernible motives and are preceded by clear warning signs. Through dozens of compelling stories from his own career and life, he unravels the complexities of violent behavior and details the pre-incident indicators (PINs) that can determine if someone poses a danger to us. Readers learn how to:

  • Recognize the survival signals that warn us about risk from strangers
  • Rely on their intuition
  • Separate real from imagined danger
  • Predict Dangerous Behavior
  • Evaluate whether someone will use violence
  • Move beyond denial so that their intuition works for them

Offering in-depth solutions to people who are dealing with domestic abuse or workplace violence or who are the targets of unwanted pursuit, de Becker also provides unique insight into death threats, stalkers, assassins, children who kill, and mass killers. After reading The Gift of Fear, individuals will be able to confidently answer life’s highest-stakes questions:

  • Will the employee I must fire react violently?
  • How should I handle the person who refuses to let go?
  • What is the best way to respond to threats?
  • What are the dangers posed by strangers?
  • How can I help my loved ones be safer?

The Gift of Fear is an important book about human behavior, one which has left millions of readers stronger and safer.

What others have said about The Gift of Fear:

Casey Gwinn
City Attorney, San Diego
“Gavin de Becker moves the reader from victim to victor as he identifies the God-given abilities we all have to avoid the risk posed by the predators in our Society. The real life stories in The Gift of Fear create the picture better than any camera ever could.”
Linda A. Fairstein
Sex Crimes Prosecutor and Author
“An important and provocative book which offers real solutions to problems of fear and personal violence – from an expert who knows the territory and explodes the myths. I know The Gift of Fear will be a terrific resource for me – and, I hope, for millions of readers.”
Marcia Clark:
“In my 14 years as a prosecutor, crime victims or their loved ones have always asked me, “What could I have done to prevent this?” The Gift of Fear is the first book that answers that question. It teaches you how to tap into and act on the subtle warning signs that herald danger. Gavin de Becker’s brilliant insights and encyclopedic familiarity with the minds of criminals have made powerful contributions to the successful prosecution of many cases, including mine, and now he shares that knowledge with his readers.”
Robert Ressler
FBI Behavioral Scientist
Author of “Whoever Fights Monsters”
“A modern-day survival manual for everyone in our society, uniquely and firmly founded on Gavin de Becker’s extensive experience, and on his own life. This book contains wisdom that transcends traditional approaches to violence.”
Meryl Streep
“A thorough and compassionate primer for people concerned about their safety and the safety of their families. This book not only empowers the reader, it also captures your attention and doesn’t let it go until the end.”
Scott Gordon
Chairman, Domestic Violence Council
“…tackles the hard questions about living in America today. It should be read by everyone who wants to triumph over fear.”
Daniel Petrocelli
Lead Plaintiff counsel
Goldman v. Simpson
“Gavin de Becker’s book is the first to explain that our powers of intutition are the best protection we have against violence.”
Erika Holzer
Lawyer and author of “Eye For An Eye”
“…a tour de force: riveting, instructive, a book that dissects the phenomenon of violence, unravels its mysteries, and shows us how to prevail.”
Rochelle Udell
SELF Magazine
The Gift of Fear is an important story with a powerful message, a story every woman must read.”